This is how my family has always eaten
You’d never betray your people. This isn’t leaving them — it’s widening the circle.
You feel belonging as a moral good, and you don’t want to be the difficult one at the table. That loyalty is a strength. The question isn’t whether to keep faith with those you love — it’s how big the circle of “us” is allowed to grow.
Watch: a wider us
Belonging doesn’t have to shrink you
Loyalty is devotion to the group — the pull to stand with your own and feel abandonment as a wound. Much of what a new vegan feels as friction isn’t about the animals at all; it’s loyalty firing, registering change as a small treason. But the door here was never to break your bonds. It’s to enlarge them — to offer a wider “us” you can belong to: future generations, the living world, a growing community of others who made the same choice. You’re not being asked to leave your people. You’re being handed a larger one.
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